⚠️ When “Kind” Isn’t Consent Don’t be fooled by soft language. If it functions like extinction, it is extinction. Some interventions are framed as gentle, trauma-informed, or “positive”—but still suppress behavior without consent, communication, or dignity. 🚩 Red Flags to Watch For ✅ Planned ignoring with praise once quiet ✅ Breaks earned, but never freely offered ✅ “Natural consequences” engineered to punish ✅ “Respectful redirection” that still dismisses distress ✅ Token systems that control access to regulation or joy ✅ High-P request chains used to trap compliance ✅ Assent-based language that only honors "yes" Even if the tone is soft, the outcome still matters. 🧠 Strategies must support autonomy, emotional safety, and true communication—not polished coercion. 📚 Learn more: “Compliance Is Not the Goal” – Neurodivergent Rebel https://neurodivergentrebel.com/2020/10/22/compliance-is-not-the-goal/ 💬 Kind isn’t always kind. Consent cannot be conditional.

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